Empty nest now

It was 4:45am when my body clock woke me up to start the day, 20/7/2014 which marked the first empty nest day of my life journey.

As usual, I started my one hour dawn meditation. The quality of my sitting this morning was not any good. My mind was full of distractions, full of thoughts about my two children, most of them were about Chenny. I knew he was sleeping in his own home right now. The feeling was really strange, This was not the first time he was not sleeping at home. What makes the difference? He is the youngest child of ours, and he has gone independence yesterday, he is sleeping in his own nest and is going to grow his own, and ours has become an empty nest, that is the difference.

--to be continued--

On the Eve of Chenny's going independence

I watched a video clip sometime ago about how the wild world is driven by the urge of going independence. The specie being monitored of this process was hawk. When the chick has grown up to a stage where its wings are supposed to be able to fly, glide, and hunt for themselves, their parents guide them to the opening of their nest and this apparently is a gesture of announcing that their chicks are now going independence. The chick showed some reluctance, and then dives following the last, and there they go one after another. If there is one that appears to be in fear of moving on to the independent stage, the parent hawk pushed it off the nest without showing any leniency. Perhaps as a matter of fact, the mother hawk's heart might be breaking badly having to kick their beloved out of their home, I so think.

This past two months when Chenny and his fiancee began to find a house to buy for setting up their own family, I recalled my memory about that bit of footage of the video. I, just like the parent hawk, was sort of driven the program installed in my brain, always said something to push Chenny move onto his next life stage such as: "it is time to set up your own family."; "you have reached the stage of forming your family." My mind was actually feeling the way round. Feeling how wonderful it would be if there is no such thing as going independence, wouldn't it be happier if a family only grows bigger and not any of the family member will move out of the nest.

The independence will be on the 18th July 2014 which is the date of settlement of the house Chenny and his fiancée jointly bought through auction in June after a intensive house hunting for nearly 3 month under the assistance of Lily's parent. The housing shortage crises in Auckland region has caused the young first home buyers a lot hardship and this is not an exception to Chenny.

On the eve of Chenny and Lily moving forward to their next life stage, I pray that they will look after each other; happily live each day in full; laughter, bliss and harmony fill their nest. And most importantly to pay up the mortgage quickly.